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Twelve Months of Bliss, Nov: The Love Letter.

November 4, 2015
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Are you guys ready for this month’s Twelve Months of Bliss challenge? It’s another one of my favorites and I hope you’ll join me, and maybe even invite someone else to take part in it too. Here are the details…

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November 2015: The Love Letter.

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” -Oscar Wilde


Challenge: Write a love letter to yourself. This love letter is not a simple note of surface things but rather a love letter to your truest self. It’s a letter of important reminders about yourself you desperately need reminding of. It’s a letter of forgiveness for that one thing you just can’t let go of. It’s a letter of encouragement and self acceptance. It’s a letter to all of your quirks and all of your imperfections – a collection of words that say, YOU are worthy of a great love, a kind of love that starts from within.

But the challenge doesn’t end there; throughout the month of November, I’d like to challenge you to “if you can’t say something nice about yourself, don’t say anything at all.” No more self put-downs, no more self critiques. Throughout this month you will practice positive self-talk and positive self-reflection. (I like to call this “parenting yourself.” How does one “parent” themselves, you ask? Check out my article on Best Kept Self for details.)

How often: Love letter: once. Positive self-talk and positive self-reflection: daily.

What you will need: Paper, pen & envelope. Oh yes, I’m talking “old school” here – do not type this up on the computer and save it to your desktop. Get some of your favorite stationary, use your favorite pen. Once you’ve written the letter, place it in the envelope, seal it, write your name on the front and then put it some place safe. You will open your letter back up at the very end of the entire Twelve Months of Bliss project.

Why?: “And if I asked you to name all the things that you love, how long would it take for you to name yourself?” I came across this (unknown) quote a few months ago while reading How to Make a Life blog and it was one of those questions that stayed with me the rest of the day. If we’re all good at one thing, it’s being overly critical of ourselves. This month’s challenge is an important reminder that this truly needs to stop. I challenge you to go deeper within yourself this month. Confront the things about yourself you’ve stuffed way down, forgive, and then let go.

[For those of you keeping a 12MofBliss journal: Was it difficult to write a love letter to yourself? How many hours/days were you able to go before you uttered a critical word about yourself? By the end of this month, are you seeing yourself in a better light? Do you feel that loving yourself better helps you to love others better?]

November’s Linkup: This month’s linkup will take place at Ember Grey on Wednesday, November 25. This linkup will serve as a place for all of us to share our thoughts and reflections on this particular challenge. (*Please note: you will not be asked to share your actual love letter in this month’s linkup, although if you would like to that’s fine. The linkup is just a place where you can share your thoughts about the month’s challenge if you so choose.)

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  • I’ve been writing letters to my body lately thanking it for what it does for me. A Love letter can be a difficult task for people but certainly so important. I’ve planned to write a post on the quote you noted – but may include it for my linkup post this month.

  • I really like this challenge. I tend to turn to letters when I have something to say but can’t necessarily say it openly. I have a little notebook of unsent letters. It makes me feel good to get it out, but not necessarily give my opinion where it doesn’t belong. I also have a few letters addressed to people I can’t mail (i.e. God, deceased relatives), so this challenge is perfect!

    • Wow, thanks for sharing these things. A notebook of unsent letters. I would think that would be so healing <3

  • This is fabulous!!! I love this idea so much. I will definitely be doing this one. 🙂

  • Ooh, I love this one!

  • if there’s ever a month for me to be late to the party and actually join, this is that month! this goes perfectly with my post today… about learning to love myself. YES PLEASE! I’ve missed you. I’m trying to get back into the swing of things.

  • Whoa, I was just talking about this very idea in therapy! Well, I guess this is the perfect time for me to join in on 12 Months of Bliss! 🙂 What an interesting prompt. I loved your article on self-parenting as well. That’s definitely something I need to work on…

  • This is going to be so hard for me overall but I know I need to do it!

    • It’s not an easy thing for most people but can be so freeing! Like a good reset with yourself, you know? 🙂

  • A very long, long time ago I sat in a counselor’s office and read a letter to myself I was asked to write. I remember as if it was yesterday what it felt like. I then shredded the letter (per my counselor) and let it ALL go. That was the most freeing, loving, unexpected thing I ever did for myself. So, loving myself, not to sound conceited is something I’ve learned to do ever since. With that said, maybe it is age too, I have no problem writing a letter to myself. But, this time, it will be so very different. I truly wish I could send this challenge out to all the women who I come across in the blog world who between their words cut, put down and find themselves unworthy. If they only knew …..

    • So, so true, Michelle!! Such wise words. I love learning from some of the other comments in this post that other gals have already written a letter like this to themselves. It can be so powerful and moving. I think that because we evolve over time, writing a few love letters to ourselves in the course of our lifetime is not such a bad thing! 🙂

  • My oh my, this could seriously evoke some deep-seated emotions!

  • This is THE BEST. I think we could all use it!

    • I’m really looking forward to hearing everyone’s feedback at the end of the month 🙂

  • LOVE this month’s challenge. I will definitely be doing this!

  • So I did this in my journal and bawled and cracked up the entire time. I think Steve thinks he married a half crazed nut job! 🙂 But I loved doing this. I’m going to have Claire start doing this too!!

    • Oops, just now seeing this Amy! Sorry! I am planning on doing this this weekend!! 🙂 LOVE that Claire is going to do it too.