Are you guys ready for this month’s Twelve Months of Bliss challenge? It’s another one of my favorites and I hope you’ll join me, and maybe even invite someone else to take part in it too. Here are the details…
November 2015: The Love Letter.
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” -Oscar Wilde
Challenge: Write a love letter to yourself. This love letter is not a simple note of surface things but rather a love letter to your truest self. It’s a letter of important reminders about yourself you desperately need reminding of. It’s a letter of forgiveness for that one thing you just can’t let go of. It’s a letter of encouragement and self acceptance. It’s a letter to all of your quirks and all of your imperfections – a collection of words that say, YOU are worthy of a great love, a kind of love that starts from within.
But the challenge doesn’t end there; throughout the month of November, I’d like to challenge you to “if you can’t say something nice about yourself, don’t say anything at all.” No more self put-downs, no more self critiques. Throughout this month you will practice positive self-talk and positive self-reflection. (I like to call this “parenting yourself.” How does one “parent” themselves, you ask? Check out my article on Best Kept Self for details.)
How often: Love letter: once. Positive self-talk and positive self-reflection: daily.
What you will need: Paper, pen & envelope. Oh yes, I’m talking “old school” here – do not type this up on the computer and save it to your desktop. Get some of your favorite stationary, use your favorite pen. Once you’ve written the letter, place it in the envelope, seal it, write your name on the front and then put it some place safe. You will open your letter back up at the very end of the entire Twelve Months of Bliss project.
Why?: “And if I asked you to name all the things that you love, how long would it take for you to name yourself?” I came across this (unknown) quote a few months ago while reading How to Make a Life blog and it was one of those questions that stayed with me the rest of the day. If we’re all good at one thing, it’s being overly critical of ourselves. This month’s challenge is an important reminder that this truly needs to stop. I challenge you to go deeper within yourself this month. Confront the things about yourself you’ve stuffed way down, forgive, and then let go.
[For those of you keeping a 12MofBliss journal: Was it difficult to write a love letter to yourself? How many hours/days were you able to go before you uttered a critical word about yourself? By the end of this month, are you seeing yourself in a better light? Do you feel that loving yourself better helps you to love others better?]
November’s Linkup: This month’s linkup will take place at Ember Grey on Wednesday, November 25. This linkup will serve as a place for all of us to share our thoughts and reflections on this particular challenge. (*Please note: you will not be asked to share your actual love letter in this month’s linkup, although if you would like to that’s fine. The linkup is just a place where you can share your thoughts about the month’s challenge if you so choose.)