This quote is one of my favorites, bookmarked in one of my quote books from years ago, but I think of it often.
Our new home is really starting to come together, however the walls remain completely bare. The reason being because I’m missing my picture-hanging-helper-buddy (aka: Christian, who is still out of town) and need to wait until he gets back to officially hang up any art work. He and I have a system – he holds the picture up against the wall and I stand way at the back of the room, moving to each corner, to see how it looks in the spot. Bless the man because this is usually a multistep process in that I have to see it in different spots on the wall. And then sometimes on another wall. With various lighting. And then moved again- usually right back where it started. So since I can’t hang anything yet, I’ve been taking different pictures to each room and resting them up against the wall, just below the spot I think it might look the best in.
Yesterday afternoon, as I sat at my desk to catch up on some blog reading, I happened to look over at one of the pictures leaning up against the wall. The sun was hitting it just so and I smiled as I realized it was the perfect spot in the room for it. What’s more is that this particular picture was a new gift, given to me by a friend, to welcome me into my new home. And I couldn’t help but remember the Jennie Churchill quote. I’m so grateful to have friends (new and old, near and far) who encourage me, inspire me, remind me of who I am in the moments I start to doubt, welcome me into new adventures, and who continuously hold me in the best light. Isn’t that how it should be? I sure think so. I think anyone you allow to be a part of your personal life should treat you this way.
I was talking to a friend of mine the other day who was telling me about a “friend” of hers who treats her poorly. This person puts her down, criticizes her dreams and goals when shared, and only reaches out when everyone else is busy. So of course I asked her, ‘So why do you continue to be friends with this person?’ and my friend said, ‘Well, I’ve known her for forever and, well, she’s not like one of my true friends.’ and I said, ‘You know… I think once we reach a certain point in life, there should be an allotted amount of space, reserved only for true friends.’ She laughed and then said, ‘I think sometimes I forget that I can actually choose my friends.’
Sometimes we do forget we can pick and choose the people we allow into our personal lives. No one is perfect, no, and all relationships have their bumps (how else would anyone grow in life?), but I think we should cautiously reserve that precious space for the people who treat us how we might like to be treated. The friends who encourage and inspire and welcome and remind… for the ones who place us in ‘that perfect spot’ – the spot with the best light.